Life can be very unpredictable. Without a moment’s notice our entire world can change, and we may not have time to take it all in. Sometimes we have to move on. But part of us is often frozen in that moment when we received the bad news, or when we fully realized that we have lost something of value that we never expected to lose.
What happens after that? Life sweeps us onward. And if we aren’t careful, we forget we have left an emotional and mental mess behind that is still unresolved. Every so often we will stumble across the wreckage in our mind, and it may become increasingly hard to avoid the haunting moments, the images, and the feelings.
Today as I write this, I am still working through some of the events of the past few weeks. It often takes my subconscious mind and emotions time to catch up to the life I’m living today. I’ve found that, as a guy, I tend to push my emotions out of the way so I can deal with the issues at hand. I think it’s part of the warrior instinct that men tend to have.
After the dust settles, I am able to see more clearly what actually happened if I take time to reflect and start the rebuilding process. Doctors say that when you break a bone, it will grow back even stronger than before, if it heals correctly. I want to encourage you to take the time today to start the rebuilding process. If you haven’t talked to someone about how you’ve been feeling yet, please do so today. It’s always hard to get started, but in the end it’s worth taking the steps necessary to begin the healing process.
Choosing to suppress what occurred can be more dangerous, in my opinion. If we don’t actively think about what happened to us physically, mentally, and emotionally, and take action towards dealing with it, we could unintentionally carry some of the wreckage into other parts of our life. We may inadvertently become more irritable, get distracted, or withdraw from the important relationships in our life if we aren’t careful.
Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen. ~ Winston Churchill
Be courageous enough to take the time to think through your emotions, to share what you feel, and to listen to what your heart is telling you. It may be hard, but ultimately we can model the bravery it takes to be healthy and mature leaders in our community. Everyone around you is depending on you to do the right thing. Take the time you need to rebuild your own heart.