As you know, there are a lot of articles telling you what to do to feel happier. Today we’re going to flip the coin on its head and talk about seven common habits people do that make them unhappy.
Research has shown that we have a lot of power to influence our own happiness so some awareness can go a long way to helping. Knowing what makes you unhappy is a powerful way to help you make a positive change.
1. Believing People Can’t Be Trusted
Unhappy people aren’t often very trusting of others. They may suspect they are being cheated or plotted against in the office. This habit can be stressful. Try to see the goodness in others and have some faith that others can come through for you.
2. Seeking Permission from Others
The more you rely on other people to tell you how to live your life, the less you begin to trust your own judgment. Start listening to yourself more by trusting your instinct and feelings on small things at first.
3. Focusing on What’s Wrong
When a problem arises, unhappy people see only the problem. They see what they will lose or the pain they will have to endure. Happy people are more likely to see opportunities in these unexpected circumstances. Ask yourself: what good could come out of this?
4. Comparing to Others
If you compare yourself to other people, you will usually come out short. People only post their best pictures on Facebook and don’t often talk about the struggles they’ve endured. You are a unique person so give yourself more credit and respect for where you are.
5. Waiting for Future Happiness
If you find yourself waiting for happiness, you might always be left wanting. Happiness comes from inside. It’s an attitude that can be developed. Start by enjoying the moment you are in and recognizing the things you are grateful for.
6. Resisting Obstacles
As you go throughout life, you are bound to face challenges. You have the choice to accept them or to resist them. Unhappy people often have the habit of resisting these obstacles. Try accepting them at face value and then take them on piece by piece.
7. Gossiping or Complaining
Unhappy people often fill their conversations with gossip or complaints. Instead of seeing the best in others and circumstances or taking an optimistic view, unhappy people focus on what’s wrong. Minimize gossip or complaining and you’ll start feeling happier.
Happiness is something you can cultivate in your life by practicing the right habits. During the holiday season, now is the perfect time to stop practicing these seven habits of unhappy people. Give your family your best this year.
